I am going to physical therapy, and I hope one day I can do exercise on a more regualr and consistent basis. I have chronic pain, and this last car accident only made the already chronic pain worse and more frequent. I am having a hard time getting back into exercise and had to switch therapists.
It’s not like I don’t try on my good days, but those rare days, I am usually trying to catch up with the household chores that I got behind in.
Sometimes I feel like I am not really living with this kind of pain, and that my husband does not understand. I saw a woman on t.v. and thought she was pretty and wanted to have pretty jeans and a form fitting shirt like her. He said her hips were too big, but I thought she looked nice. Then it got to be my hips are too big too. And there are other times he talks about me too. I know I could lose some weight, but how can I without starving myself, or is that what I should do? And how do I shrink my hip bones down so that I will be good enough?
#1 by icesk8er on December 18, 2009 - 12:40 pm
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I’m sorry, but your husband needs to be supportive of you, it sounds like you need to try not to listen to him, I would suggest going to counseling with him, he needs to accept you the way you are and love you no matter what! Have you tried exercising in water like water aerobics classes or lap swimming- that has helped me a lot with being able to exercise with my pain. Good luck!
#2 by mlgable on December 18, 2009 - 1:53 pm
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The first thing you need to do is go see a pain management doctor to get your pain under control. Pain docs do nothing but treat pain. Once you do that you just need to work on a burning more calories than you take in. Keep a journal for a week of your calorie intake and what exercise you do get and then work from there. Eat a diet high in fruits and veggies with meat as only 1/3 of your plate. Pile your plate with tons more veggies so there is less room for meat. Also try using a luncheon plate instead of a dinner plate.
#3 by jreba_fa on December 18, 2009 - 6:09 pm
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He sounds like he’s a “stinker”.
If YOU want to lose weight you can do simple things like drink more water, start watching your calories and don’t eat anything after dinner. If you’re serious that is.
I love this website:
http://www.fitday.com Its free and its so cool to track calories.
If you can walk, you could do that! Can you swim? That is great for pain management too.
Otherwise its all excuses, right?
#4 by tejas_yu on December 18, 2009 - 7:39 pm
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First, dump the man who degrades you – it’s not worth it.
Second, when chronic pain is a part of your life, exercise in the pool! It is really easy on the joints and has great resistance. You’d think your physical therapist would tell you this, but that would mean less time with them, which is less money in their pocket!
Third, go see an atlas orthogonality chiropractor. Look them up and find one in your area. There is NO manipulation and mine has done wonders for me.
Good luck and you are good enough! No reason to keep a husband who doesn’t think you are!
#5 by Stacy on December 18, 2009 - 7:39 pm
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Unless your health is threatened, or you want to lose weight for your own benefit, don’t. Lose the husband. Men should appreciate women with broad hips.
#6 by aubwe200 on December 18, 2009 - 8:50 pm
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I don’t like your husband. He should be supportive, of you in the condition you are in now. Something that will help is just eat smaller portions and drink plenty of water. Most of all love your self.
#7 by b8k3p on December 19, 2009 - 12:29 am
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A sure fire way to lose weight will be to divorce your husband.
Spouses should support one another — through thick and thin.
#8 by XiaoZhen on December 19, 2009 - 1:41 am
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Try low carb, low fat, high fibre, high protein, and exercise. The foods are low caloried, and yet filling and healthy. Brisk walking is great for burning body fats.
It is my lifestyle now. I am on low carb, low fat, high fibre, high protein and a hour brisk walk 5 times a week, and I have lost 31lbs/14kg and gained better health. I am now maintaining my 108lbs/49kg for more than a year, with more fruits and complex carbs.
Details such as my experience, meals, snacks, recipes, foods to buy, reading labels, walking as an exercise and to shape the body etc etc, are in my blog
#9 by Richard K on December 19, 2009 - 6:42 am
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I am a guy and I know exactly how you feel with the pain. I have surgery every 8 weeks and on some strong medicine. Just last week, a person who lives with me said She didn’t realize how much I was in. Let’s just say I forgot to flush one time. Unlessm you had to go through it, nobody knows what it is like.
My daughter is on this diet where you eat 6 small meals a day and it works great. And do as much powerwalking you can
#10 by happy@50 on December 19, 2009 - 10:51 am
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Your husband sounds like an ***. He married you for better or worse,richer or poorer in sickness and in health— and you married him for better or worse, you just got the worst! Stand up to him and let him know how you feel. Men are sometimes really trying to help and don’t realize they are being an ***.
#11 by jzalesky on December 19, 2009 - 2:05 pm
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For one your husband should support you and not complain about your size and shape. My wife has been through a lot and has gained weight and I am even a nutrition coach and it can be hard without support from everyone. If you really want to lose weight do it for your self not for him. I dont know what kind of budget you have but I can help you on losing weight if you would like me to call you. I have a website at mydiet4u.com that you can enter your info into and I will contact you or you can just email me at jzalesky@mydiet4u.com. I will truly help you lose that weight to the best of my ability and I might actually have some products that may help the pain and recovery. I look forward to talking to you. Good luck with what ever you choose.
Jason
#12 by love on December 19, 2009 - 8:17 pm
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I am a therapist and I work with alot of clients with a range of physical issues. Number 1. forgive and love yourself right where you are. Love your husband and know that this journey cannot be all about him. You only need to commit to at least 30 minutes of walking everyday (preferrably in nature, as oppose to the gym). If you can’t take 30 minutes all at once do three sessions of 10 minutes of walking,and build up with time. Try to drink a gallon of water a day. Sing and laugh daily and think positve thoughts about everything. That may seem hard at first but worth it! Visualize yourself as you want to be as you are working and loving yourself… remember there is no there… only here.Stay in the now. That’s all any of us ever really have. So be patient. Don’t focus on others! You are absolutely capable and ready to heal. Don’t focus on the weight, focus on being the best you can be in your marriage , housework e.t.c. in no time at all you will feel better and find yourself living your dreams! Good luck! P.S. You are beautiful and perfect in every way RIGHT NOW!…not at some later date. Don’t compare yourself or your life to anyone else’s. Start claiming your power and never let it go. You are a valuable member of humanity and no one can give the world the gifts that you have to give. Think about that. The lady on t.v. is great but she could never be you on her best day. Peace and blessings.
#13 by Tessa on December 19, 2009 - 9:53 pm
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Your husband sounds like a jerk!! If you want to lose weight to make YOU feel better than that’s great, but don’t do it just to please him!!
#14 by Warfight on December 20, 2009 - 3:40 am
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You know what? He is probably not that bad of a guy. She might not be putting it across the right way. or maybe she is a chronic complainer and needs attention constantly. She obviously gets it here. You all feel so sorry for a person you know nothing about.
You talk about support. What about degrading your husband online in front of thousands of strangers. Not much support there. Hmmm there is always three sides to every story, What She says, What He says and the Truth.
Truth hurts CC Curious
Good luck with your pain and your weight loss. Try to make your marriage better instead of running away like the people in here are saying. Doesn’t anyone commit to anything anymore? if there are problems, shouldn’t you work on fixing them instead of tossing the issues aside and running. that to me is L*A*Z*Y. Marriage is not disposable in the eyes of the Lord that you stood in front of the day you were married.
#15 by Nikki S on December 20, 2009 - 6:09 am
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Try breathing exercises:
1. http://breathing.com/weight-loss-program.htm
2. http://www.tbfinc.com/breathing_exercise.htm
and surround yourself with the right people.
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