Comments on: A Question For Anyone Who Has Any Experience With Na Or A Family Member Who Has Suffered From A Drug Addiction

By: bridget j

bridget j — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 04:25:27 +0000

my suggestion is that she call the law, and tell them. she can get a divorce without him.

By: stonegir

stonegir — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 23:13:45 +0000

i had a problem with meth about four years ago and i can tell you one thing , you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help! She has to want to get help!

By: FlaChic

FlaChic — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:53:03 +0000

The best thing you can do……..Is Butt Out and stop trying to think you can “fix” these people. Who owns the problem? It is not you so it is not your job to solve this…..besides, you can’t. Go on with your life and learn from their mistakes.

By: openpsyc

openpsyc — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:23:25 +0000

She must seek help from NA (the self help group). There is I think no other way since she has already gone through rehab once.

By: Z-Cat

Z-Cat — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 15:35:13 +0000

Please stand by her with the utmost care & support. My mother was murdered by my step-dad, him being an alcoholic, and addict. We tried to get here to move in with us, she said he would follow. There is restraining orders. Please be by her side. There are safe houses which help recovering addicts, the do not tell anyone where she is. ( Mom wouldn’t go afraid of him finding her) I will sure pray for you & your family!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 10:59:31 +0000

Yes it is possible for her to get admitted under a false name, depending on the place. The best way to help her is just be suportive, and listen if she needs to talk. The best way to keep the husband gone would be to talk to the police or go to a womens shelter that helps women that have been abused.

By: rebe1ga1

rebe1ga1 — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 05:30:27 +0000

I understand totally,I just got divorced from a drug user and it’s not easy,I’ve been beat and hit by a car and almost killed by him.Here’s my advice for you,She might have to go through lot’s of consiling,and get her own life straight first,then file for a divorce.at legal aid.there are programs to help her do this she won’t even have to see him ever again.

By: bubblesl

bubblesl — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 00:36:02 +0000

it’s a difficult one to answer.as a counselor i listen to people with addiction and most would love to have the unconditional support of their family,so i think your family are marvelous for trying to help.yes she could have used another name,the fact that she admitted she had a problem is a huge step,my advice would be to listen to her,support her where ever you can.do not keep anything she was addicted to in the house or where she can find it,during her darkest moments it will be easy for her to slip but harder if there is nothing readily to hand,find a self help group that handles abuse of all sorts,as they will know what she’s going through and can give you helpful advice and her invaluable support.i hope this helps.as for her abusive husband use the law.good luck

By: slinkey_

slinkey_ — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 19:28:16 +0000

I would recommend NA, and Al-Anon for the family. She may also benefit from Al-Anon – even though she’s a former user, she may also benefit from the widsom of Al-Anon. FYI – both programs are very spiritual.
Good luck.

By: sungasaw

sungasaw — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 16:48:57 +0000

been there done that got a t-shirt to prove it, I am an alcoholic and drug addict been through the system for like 25 years but never got a thing out of it why? because I never admited that I had a problem and until you do you sit there and go through the motions but nothing goes to head nor heart, then my liver started to go last January and I was one drink away from placing myself on the liver list waiting for a donor, that did it! everything ever said to me came right back and even though I never attended another meeting I did quit everything, I knew what to do just refused to do it, I have been recovering for 18 months now and am feeling great, I even quit smoking cigs I figured might as well knock it all off at once, a drug addict or alcoholic who wants to quit can but first must admit they have a problem and no matter what others say to the person it does no good because the person remains in denial, oh and yes she can most certainly change her name first of all her maiden name is always and ever her legal name just because she married him has no bearing upon that she could call herself betsy ross if she wished remember its narcotics ANONYMUS also as far as the divorce goes what do you mean by she is doubtful she will get the divorce? all she has to do is show she made a change in her life through rehab and that he didnt and she dont want to jeopardize her life for his choices any longer and his best retort which actually is not worth the paper it is written on is “problem? I don’t have a problem” if you wish to speak further about this feel free to email me I stay up all night because Philippine nights are Americas days and I moved here from Pennsylvania to dasmarinas cavite, my email is murphys_soap@yahoo.com.