My mom who was 74 died last wednesday and was buried on saturday..She had empysema for about 10 yrs and for the past 6 yrs had been on oxygen 24/7…She had been sick on and off since january and in january she was in the hospital for a week and then for 6 weeks she had been in a nursing home/rehab center getting physical therapy to get stronger so she could go home..Well she had been home for about 3 weeks when she went back into the hospital cause for about a week or more she was sick again and weak and barely eating..She went back on april 1st and a few days later they took tests and found out that everything she was eating and drinking was going straight to her lungs..When she was in rehab they were softening her food in a food processer cause everytime she ate she would start coughing and when she got home my sister,her husband and my sisters daughter continued to do the same thing….Nobody knew she had this problem with her food and drinking going into her lungs until she had
#1 by DeltaQue on February 21, 2010 - 7:43 pm
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Hi, I am so sorry for your loss.
My Grandmother suffered from emphysema as well and it is very difficult for family members to watch their loved ones suffer from . I don’t really think that there is 1 thing that you will be able to put your finger on to make sense of your loss.
Its obvious that as with my grandmother your Mother had wonderful care while she was ill, and with that said, when they start to fail from their disease it doesn’t seem likely that they could just go like that.
If it can help you at all, I will tell you that you story sounds very similar to ours, so this must be how this disease is at the end.
My Grandmother also whispered to me that she was “ready to go”. When it is so difficult to breath like it was for them for many years, eventually their little bodies just give out.
I know its hard, but now it would probably be best if you would let go of how this happened and just celebrate your Mother and remember all of the good things that you will carry on with you forever. Your Mother is happy and breathing well, now, she never has to struggle again.
God Bless you and your family!
#2 by Anonymous on February 21, 2010 - 10:59 pm
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That’s a very sad story. I think it was just her time not to suffer anymore. I’ve lost both my parents so I know the pain you feel. My mom died of lung cancer and it’s a very painful thing to see your loved one suffering. I wouldn’t feel guilty about anything.
#3 by elfin420 on February 22, 2010 - 2:18 am
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no, it was probably not preventable, if she was having trouble breathing and eating, it was best to help her get something into her system some how, otherwise she may have sartved to death
#4 by nudle_2 on February 22, 2010 - 4:33 am
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no it was just taking it toll. I have lost my mom , my dad , my brother.And they were all not old. Nothing anyone can do , when its time its time.It is very sad, most people go trough that pain once or more in their live time. A very sad thing but a reality.