So I recently went back to the dentist for the first time in a long time, and as I figured, I have a lot of work to be done.
I need a root canal, two crowns, a filling, and a jaw surgery/physical therapy because of my bite being really messed up and causing me to have migraines. I’m really excited that after 12 years of headaches I have a cause for it all, and can have it corrected. I have an infection in my jaw, which I am finishing up antibiotics for now. I have an appointment on Friday to get the root canal done. That’s going to cost us $1200, since it is so far gone, and has been broken for about 4 years now.
I also have crooked teeth, and have been planning to get Lumineers, and I have already gotten 2 consultations and I am a good candidate for them. My dentist is a cosmetic dentist who also does general dentistry, and since I am having a few thousand in other work done, he offered me 2 free Lumineers to have the procedure done. My issue is that either way, I have to get the work financed–and it needs to be done, or I will end up with an even worse infection than I already have, and be in so much pain, again.
Now here’s where the tricky part comes in. My husband is in the Marine Corps, and he is currently deployed. I got to talk to him for a few minutes, and told him about the root canal, but the phone was cut off before I was able to tell him about the rest. I told him it was a few thousand and it would be financed in our names. He said to make sure what the payment would be and that we could afford it. I’m just going back and forth with it because I did not get the chance to tell him about the Lumineers… But if I do the rest now and the Lumineers later, I won’t get the 2 free ones, plus I will have to have 2 loans financed for it, instead of all at one shot, so it will be 2 payments, and about 2400$ more. We can afford the payments, as he just got a promotion and military’s yearly pay and BAH raise, and I also work for a pharmacy.
I really want to surprise him with having my teeth done and them be all pretty when I finally get to see him again in March. But I’m not sure if that’s the right thing to do. I only have until Friday to finance it, and I’m not sure when I will be able to talk to him again. I can’t reschedule the appointment because of the infection.. It has to be done the day I finish antibiotics, otherwise I’ll have to keep getting more antibiotics, and that’s not so good for you.
So I’m stuck. I don’t want to make him upset.. And I do plan to pay it out of my own paycheck, it will just be jointly financed in both our names (like our cars are)…. And I really want to surprise him and get it done. And I want it done for myself. It’s been forever that I wanted nice teeth and my family never had the money, plus my parents were meth heads. Any advice?? I’m so torn!
#1 by Sandy Ego on July 13, 2010 - 8:44 am
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If you know your husband well, you should know if you making the decision to go ahead with the procedure could cause a problem between you two. I know that between my husband and I, either one of us could safely make a judgment about something like this, even if we didn’t have an opportunity to consult each other. 99.9% of the time, the decision one of us would make would be the same as the decision we would make together. Personally, I would go ahead and get the procedure done; keeping your teeth in good shape is important, and there’s no reason to put it off if you can afford it and if you’re getting all this work done anyway. When it comes to dental work, it usually costs more to fix problems down the road. There wouldn’t be a question in my mind that my husband would want me to get my teeth squared away, and I would want him to do the same thing. But every relationship is different, and you know better than anyone here if your husband is prone to flying off the handle over something like that.
#2 by China Rican on July 13, 2010 - 1:15 pm
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Do it and surprise him. If you are paying for it with your own money and you know that you can afford it why not do something nice for yourself. Good luck
#3 by Belinda2 on July 13, 2010 - 2:29 pm
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I don’t see what the big question is. Sounds like he does not care if you finance it as long as the terms are affordable and reasonable. So go for it.
#4 by Valerie X Account #17 MEAN GIRL on July 13, 2010 - 7:12 pm
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My advice would be is to tell him.
You don’t want him to pop you in those shiny new Lumineers when he finds out you spent this kind of dough behind his back!